The actual ceremony around the Holy Fire early in the day got off to a good start- we had drizzly rain happening, the ceremony itself was a little daunting occasionally.
A string is attached to my veil which is then linked to Praveen my husband, basically I sit there and he acts for both of us through most of it.
I could understand enough to have the impression we worked our way through the Dieties asking for their blessings, the alter was full of flowers and bowls of dried grains and lentils and nuts etc. We were hopeing for prosperity in the way of happiness and family and food and all good things to call on us.
Then we had to get up and wander outside and I became the centre of attantion, this is where it got a bit daunting, seems my role focuses on collecting the water [here we are entering for the 'first' time following the priest. I have the water pot on my head, my husband is just strolling along and Kanchen has her face veiled because a priest is present.
Next we went inside around the fire, here a broom was blessed for me and I had to sweep the floor [nearly lost it here and you could feel those who know hold their breath- I actually do a lot more than quietly keep house!!] and a stove was blessed for me....
I get it and actually like the strong couple/family orientation of life here. People do see these ties as binding not disposable and stick by their relationships in general.
In many ways things have pulled to the other extreme in the world I came from, I did everything in my family, was the wage earner, and the home maker- it nearly killed me making a home for my boys.
Not bad if people have different roles in a relationship and they are apprecaited for their role because all are valuable. It just seemed I was asigned only one role and the rest of me not ackowledged....ohh well it is the custom, this was a traditional ceremony and most of the blessing ceremony felt like a blessing for our new home.
Will have to ask Praveen for a transaltion on what I missed- what is his asigned jobs? Best he does not think he can walk along leisurely while I carry the waterpot...we share.